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[b]What is the middle child syndrome?[/b]
----> [i]The middle or second born child or children often have the sense of not belonging. [u]They fight to receive attention[/u] from parents and others because they feel many times [u]they are being ignored or dubbed off[/u] as being the same as another sibling. Being in the middle a child can feel insecure. The middle child often lacks drive and looks for direction from the first born child. Sometimes a middle child [u]feels out of place[/u] because they are not over achievers and like to go with the flow of things.
Being a middle child would mean they are [u]loners.[/u] They really don�t like to latch on to a person in a relationship, there fore they have trouble keeping one due to lack of interest. Not liking to take the limelight for anything, they are not over achievers and just simply work enough work to get by, and typically that goes with school as well as a career. They are however [u]very artistic and creative.[/u] If forced to use abilities they will work well, but do not work well under pressure. They often start several projects but rarely keep focused long enough to finish a project. The best career move for a middle child would be along the lines of using their creative. Going into a writing or journalism career, and into a career that they could freely express themselves would be good. Anything that would have hours that are flexible, and projects that frequently changed would be good for a middle born child. Since relationships are not of high importance to a middle child, often times [u]they are alone.[/u] However, the best possible match for a middle child would be a last born. [/i]







[b]for me:[/b]
[spoiler][i]---> Middle child syndrome is very real. I know because I live it on a daily basis. The middle child often feels that they don't belong. The first-born sibling is put on a pedestal and the youngest sibling gets away with the most. The middle child is just - there. There are the least number of pictures of the middle child and the middle child has to work harder in order to be noticed.
Some studies say that middle children do not like to take the limelight and that they are not overachievers. I have found this theory to be false. As a middle child, I was always an overachiever in everything I did and I craved attention. I pushed myself extremely hard and had to excel in everything I did so my parents would notice me. Even if they didn't, others would congratulate me and reward me for my accomplishments.
Middle children tend to be very creative and artistic. I have found this to be true in my situation. I have always been gifted with a musical talent that I embraced as a child. I used my talent and excelled in all musical aspects in school. Music was the one area in my life where I was secure. I knew that I was good and music became my safe haven. Even though I excelled in this area, I still wasn't good enough to earn the acceptance of my parents. My older sibling's activities and my younger sibling's lack of interest in activities is what they focused their attention on.[/i][/spoiler]
[b]So naniniwala ba kau sa [u]Middle Child Syndrome?[/u][/b]
[b][i]Have you ever experienced it before? or experiencing it right now?[/i][/b]
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Last edited by kaetine (2008-07-22 02:23:58)
un lang sa ngayon.....
mejo naniniwala ako sa ganyan..sa ibang tao... pero based on my observations sa mga pinsan ko, parang di totoo.. siguro nasa family orientation din yan..kung happy family naman eh di mag eexist yung ganyang scenario.
[b]@ stabbedheart[/b]
haha! ako din 50-50 xe middle child din ako pero maraming nagssabi na baligtad daw nangyayare
coz na sakin daw ung most of the attention ng parents ko.. then cnasabi ng sis nd younger bro ko na ako nga daw
ung [i]favorite[/i] ewan ko kung bkit gnun.. pero minsan nararamdaman ko rin ung sense ng middle child syndrome na yan..
[b]@ sis yeng[/b]
weeh siz! it's not the right thing to do.. u don't have to hurt urself just for them to notice u..
maybe u shud do something w/c is gud pra makuha mo attention nla for sure my isang bgay na mgagawa mo
pra makuha mo attention nila siz!
[b]@ eizarg[/b]
haha! yeah! most of the time gnyan ginagawa ng mga anak pra makuha attention ng mga mgulang
pero uhm bka naman na satin din ung prob. kya gnun? sabi mo nga npagkakamalan kang loner
bka naman dpat lang gawin ehh mas makihalubilo sa mga tao at mging open ka sa family mo
para malaman nila kung ano tlga ung nararamdaman mo..
[b]@ meng.03[/b]
uhh.. cgro nga tama ka..nsa family orientation din yan. in my case xe di ko mxadong nafefeel ung effect ng middle child syndrome eh kya ko pinost ung
topic na to pra malaman ung ibang opinyon ng ibang middle child. if totoo ba to or hindi.. xe baligtad sakin so i was just like abnormal ba ko?
kidding!
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Last edited by kaetine (2008-07-22 02:24:27)
[b]@eizarg[/b]
--> cgro nsa mga taong nakpaligid na sau un..
wla sau ang problema nsa knila!
[b]@gengskie[/b]
--> depende pa rin un sa knila..
sabi nga ehh nsa family
orientation pa rin un..
at kung hinayaan nilang magkaganun,
well i think.. it's their fault din..
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Last edited by kaetine (2008-07-25 01:52:42)
uhm yeah.. kdalasan nga ng mga
middle child, my adhd..
cgro hindi rin natin cla masisisi
kase kung ndi cla nakakakuha ng sapat na attention sa bhay,
dinadaan nila minsan sa pagiging agresibo
at pagpapapansin sa lbas..
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^ haha! yeah pareho tau!
ako ung mabait! hehe cla ung laging
nagkakaproblema.. uhm good for you
na u're strong nd independent
gnyan tlga dpat ung mga middle child
xe nga they don't get enough attention from their parents..
so dapat alam natin kung pano un ihahandle!
pra naman hndi tau mgmukhang kawawa..
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^ depende naman xe tlga un sa pamilya
my case na totoo ung middle child syndrome
pero marami din naman ung ndi naniniwala
like u bro, xe nga iba ung nakikita mo
i mean iba2 xe orientation ng family eh
pero marami pa rin jan na nararanasan
yang middle child syndrome na yan
and it's not easy.. being ignored, hmmp
it's hard.. buti na nga lang ako
di ko nararamdaman yan sa parents ko
though un nga sa sis and sa younger bro ko
prang naffeel.. xe nga dey say that
i'm the [i]paborito[/i] so they were
like jealous!
and u have ur point din..
being d middle child, dpat kya mong dalin
ung sarili mo.. so u're becoming independent!
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Last edited by kaetine (2008-08-01 01:36:51)
[b]@xenon:[/b]
sapul ba? aha kidding..
yeah.. it's hard to explain
nd understand kung bkit gnun ung
ibang middle child..
but [i]suicide[/i] is not the right
thing to do for this..
risking ur life is not the
answer to escape this situation..

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