[align=center]When we give ourselves in love we become our most vulnerable. We are never safe. We become open to disappointed and hurt. In a relationship, individuals come together with separate histories and past experiences. They do this in the hope of creating new worlds by writing and living out and sharing new experiences together. But this is not easy, since we all interact in the shadow of past fears, expectations and habits, since we are all different, all imperfect, it is seldom possible without encountering conflict. When we feel wronged, we immediately look to the other for blame. We perceive ourselves as victims. When wronged by those we love, we seem to devalue years of relationship- a relationship that may have brought us many joys and which required much intellectual and emotional energy to have lasted so long. [b]Still with a single harsh statement, a thoughtless act, an unfeeling criticism, we are capable of destroying even the closest of our relationship. We quickly forget.. [/b]and thats the problem... [/align]