@sellaxhin: Uhm, being open in a relationship will really helped you a lot. I'm telling you about being open because this might be the one of the reasons that your problem will be okay. I guess you need to tell him, about what is your real impressions between the girl and to your boyfriend. Despite of your situation that might be a test how strong is your trust towards your boyfriend You need to be ready in all circumstances. You might be expecting into something in this time, but please expect less so that you can be prepared for what will happen to the both of you.

[quote=sellahxhin;#3509869;1270395016]I have a problem. My boyfriend is flirting with somebody else coz I saw his wall posts on that girl's facebook account . But his girl bestfriend said that my boyfriend loves me so much coz' he talks about me all the time.My boyfriend explained that they're just friends. But I know his strategies, I have that strong feeling that he really likes that girl. But he said he loves me! I don't know what to do . I don't how if I should believe in him.[/quote] Ahhh... jealousy. :| You should believe your boyfriend, even if he does things that make you believe otherwise. I'm sure you already know this, but the most important thing in a relationship (except for love, because that's already a given) is [b]trust[/b]. Confront him and tell him how you feel. Some guys feel like they're not doing "anything wrong" just because it's nothing for them. But it's not nothing for you, is it? Once he knows how you feel, then I'm sure he'll do something about it. But you should also ask yourself if those wall posts of his are [i]really[/i] pushing the boundaries or you're just easily jealous.

[quote=ashely_pain15;#3515191;1270739957]hi. i have a problem here. my boyfriend ended our relationship coz he said he doesn't want a commitment when we go to college ( we'll go to diff. university,a 7hour-travel indeed) i told him we can work it out, trust is only needed. but he said he wants me to be free at mahirap daw kalaban ang distance. since every sembreak lng dw kami pwedeng magkita. he also said that, after 4 years, and we bump to each other we can still bring it back. i just want to win him back, it hurts to know that we broke up though we both know that we still love each other. hope you can help me.. thanks[/quote] How long have you guys been dating before you two broke up? Anyway, mystic rain has said pretty much everything so I'm just gonna add a little more. You should know that not all guys are willing to be in a "long-distance relationship" even if your universities are just 7 hours apart. (I'm not saying it's near, but anyway.) Most guys build a relationship through proximity. Most of them don't want to worry about being 7 hours away from their girlfriends and stuff like that. I guess it's just how some guys really are. Although, to be honest, I think if he really wants to be with you, then he wouldn't mind a 7-hour difference in your universities. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him why. I mean, you already know that he doesn't want a "long-distance" relationship, but I dunno, make him explain it more, perhaps? Because if he really doesn't want to be in that kind of relationship, sorry to say, but he really won't be. You guys should at least have closure. (Sorry to sound sooo pessimistic!) :[ But yeah. Whatever happens, things will work out for the best. I know it sounds clich�, but it really does. You should respect his decision. Trust me, you really should. The last thing you want is a guy being in a long-distance relationship because you begged him to be in one, 'cause then there would a huge possibility that he'll be unfaithful to you. I know it hurts, but you should accept it...

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[quote=ashely_pain15;#3515191;1270739957]hi. i have a problem here. my boyfriend ended our relationship coz he said he doesn't want a commitment when we go to college ( we'll go to diff. university,a 7hour-travel indeed) i told him we can work it out, trust is only needed. but he said he wants me to be free at mahirap daw kalaban ang distance. since every sembreak lng dw kami pwedeng magkita. he also said that, after 4 years, and we bump to each other we can still bring it back. i just want to win him back, it hurts to know that we broke up though we both know that we still love each other.[/quote] hey ashley, we're in a similar situation, graduating and going to universities that are far from each other. well, my boyfriend and i decided to pursue with our relationship and try to work it out. if it doesn't, then we'll break up. of course, it wouldn't be easy but studies is our main priority. we wanted each other to reach our dreams, achieve things for ourselves. i guess that's how you should think too. regardless of whether you remain committed or not, just think that you both will go on with college so that you can pursue your dreams. you'd do that for each other. when the right time comes, and you meet again, you know you'll deserve each other because you achieved something already and you've proven something too.

[b]@--sweety10[/b] Err, I'm kind of confused with what you just said. ;__; First of all, that adviser of yours is a b*tch for getting in the middle of things. I mean, sure it's kind of her job to tell your mom that last year wasn't a very good year for you because of your boyfriend, but actually telling both parties (your bf's mom and your mom) things they say to her? Seriously. WTF. >.< So... what's your bf's mom is mad at you because... he wants to come to your house? O_O Well, since I'm confused, I'm going to ask you to clarify a bit. But you should definitely talk to your boyfriend's mom properly to get rid of misunderstandings.

haay. bakit ganito ang buhay. noon lahat ng gusto ko kahit gano ka mahal bigay agad ngayon hindi na kse spoiled na daw ako masyado pero di ko nman kasalanan sila naman nag sanay sa akin na ganun.ngayon ko lang nalaman kung pano mag value ng mga gamit at family.pero bakit ganun hindi parin nila nakikita mga effort ko na nagbabago na ako kahit mahirap dahil sanay ako sa buhay na bgay lahat ng gusto ko.

[quote=akocJACKLYN;#3566620;1273134946]haay. bakit ganito ang buhay. noon lahat ng gusto ko kahit gano ka mahal bigay agad ngayon hindi na kse spoiled na daw ako masyado pero di ko nman kasalanan sila naman nag sanay sa akin na ganun.ngayon ko lang nalaman kung pano mag value ng mga gamit at family.pero bakit ganun hindi parin nila nakikita mga effort ko na nagbabago na ako kahit mahirap dahil sanay ako sa buhay na bgay lahat ng gusto ko.[/quote] I don't think you can post in tagalog here. You're in the internation forum. Anyway, my girlfriend is also spoiled. But you can also work for what you want. Not work, as in work, you'll do something in the house for exchange. Ask your parents about that.

[quote=--sweety10;#3572796;1273332033]It's not about my academics, actually, when we started to be together, I became the first honor of the class and I when the recognition exercises came, I am the second honor and I also received awards. I can really feel that my mom don't trust me. Last school year when the Valentine's Party of our school came, even though I already bought a ticket, she didn't allow me. My mom and and my father even fought about that and I heard her say, "...makikipaglandian lang naman yan dun!". I was really hurt when I heard that, I cried all night. sorry for using some tagalog words again.[/quote] Now I'm confused. You just said your academics last school year wasn't that good? @_@ Lol, nevermind. I guess that's kind of understandable. Parents are like that, even though you're not even giving them any reason to feel that way. If it makes you feel any better, you're not the only one. I'm always hanging out at my boyfriend's house because obviously, boys aren't allowed inside [i]my[/i] house and my dad was like, "Pag ikaw mabuntis..." [b]WTF.[/b] I hate it that they don't "trust" me, but I don't think I'll be able to make them trust me no matter how hard I try to convince them. Guess you just have to wait to be "old enough" so you could do almost whatever you want without them telling you what to do. You [i]could[/i] talk to them about it, but it's rare for that to actually work. >_< Lol. I'm 18 and my parents still tell me that. It's messed up, I tell you.

[quote=oOpunkrockeranimeOo;#3598303;1274648306]I have a problem. Not a love problem, but just a problem. I have a hard time controlling my anger. Sometimes, I CAN control it to the point when I'm just indifferent to the situation. But..I've also been having a hard time controlling it. It confuses me and aggravates me. Sometimes, when I'm angry, I just have the sudden urge to HURT somebody, physically. It's hard. I break pens/pencils, rip notebook/book pages out, punch on tables, kick chairs...etc. And sometimes, I'm just "I don't f*cking care." I think this applies to my mood swings, but I'm not sure. And my mother and some of my friends have been saying that I have this intense glint on my eyes when I'm angry. The glint, she says, scares people. I scolded my sister yesterday because she lost my bookmark piece. My sister, my mom says, was just so afraid, that she stayed in my mom's room. This surprised me. I am SURE my mom has a worse temper than I do, and I mean WORSE temper. She goes to the point of throwing EVERYTHING around/yelling profanities etc., and my sister just stares in horror when she does this. However, when I scolded her yesterday, I KNOW FOR SURE, I controlled my anger better than my mom. But my sister was just AFRAID, locking herself in my parents' room. And when something pissed me off just the other day, I was such in a horrible mood. My classmates were all "Hey, Jed I --" and I shot them a look and harshly said "What?" They began apologizing all of the sudden. I'm not sure if my eyes had this "intense glint" or something...But I'm pretty sure I did, since I said my "What?" pretty normally. (Yes, I say my "What's" harshly sometimes.) I'm just...I don't know.[/quote] Hey there, mind if I'll ask you a question? Uhm, are your friends already know this problem? So that, they will understand the way you treat things or person. Well, the way you handle your mood is too rough for the others. They might be scared for the whole time because of your actions or just your intense glint from your eye. Sometimes we tend to have an action that makes the other people have a wrong interpretation with it; showing your intense glint and with the word saying "WHAT?" means to say you're angry towards them -- and that is the common interpretation with those moves You should tell some of your friends that sometimes you just tend to say "WHAT?" in a harsh way but the real meaning of it is YOU'RE NOT THAT ANGRY AT ALL. And about handling your mood, you should find an alternative ways to avoid giving an intense glint to your sister (that would make your sister run off to her bedroom and lock it up) and also breaking SOME THINGS is too dangerous. Also, you should not show off your anger where your little sister is there, she might not treat you well if she's getting old or so. Just deal all things in a calm way, not so rough.