[quote=sugarstyx_x]We'll i'll tell you, you can't blame yourself for whatever decision he makes... He is your friend, ok it's nice that you look after him. I know it's easier said than done, but you need to have a "heart to heart" talk with him.. think about what you want & need to say to him.. not what he wants to hear.. because if he's your friend, he'll try to be open minded, see & do things for the better. Remember, if you get hurt, all of this will turn around & goes back to YOU... now you decide, do you think he'll be there? wouldn't it be awkward to be friends again? see right now you feel obligated to be there for him so he won't do any wrong moves for himself.. i think the best thing to do is be there for him as a good genuine friend that you are to him. then again, that's just another friendly-older-sis-advice[/quote] nice sis,. but we have our own decisions in life right.