yes i have a problem that i've been dealing with for months since i get this prob i can't make my life peaceful anymore... long ago, i fall for a person that is not my partner and i happen to cheat my partner because of that person. and all of a sudden for no reason that love was lost and we fail to pursue the realtionship so i came back to my partner that i cheated who is actually fighting for me from the start. after long period of being together our realtionship became hell due to more fights and arguments about the past -- about what i did to him, about the cheating thing that i did to him. everytime we had a fight he mention the guys name to me and the things i did to him and i got pissed off.. always. i can't imagine that after all of my efforts of bringing back the sweet relationship that i destroyed, he still can't move on. he always mention that guys name to our arguments... wtf! i cant bear with those situations that always ends to me leaving him, but fail coz he always do things that will avoid me from leaving. i believe that if we get separated things will be more better but he dont want me to leave. i cant take those arguments and fights anymore. there are times that i hurt myself physically instead because of deppression and stress in our relationship. to be honest. last night i cought him chatting, i just asked him about it and he became so sarcastic on defending himself and turned into bringing my past with that guy i get involved with and because of too much anger i happen to hit the wall with my bear hands. i almost break my whrist. and got so many bruises all over my hands and palm for what ive done... but after that, it was useless because im still living with the same person... im getting tired of this... what will i do? i feel like im a prisoner, i want to be free, from pain-physically and emotionally... i can live without him but he can't. he wont allow me to leave. what will i do now?