^ Don't be so soft. What I mean is be tough with your decisions. Let her wait until you gain your full trust again to her. Do not just let her control over you. You are the man in your family and relationship. You should have the greater part of having decisions over things. And since she had an affair with other guy, it will be difficult for her to gain your trust again. She should make a big effort to prove that she is trust worthy. Once you feel that she is not serious with you, force yourself to be away with her. What I mean is protect yourself from the pain again. In your relationship, there's two persons involve, you and her. So you should also take care of yourself.