[spoiler][quote=butterfly_lady_08]as long as you two are not really living together in flesh. misunderstandings will always be present inside the relationship. well i can say that im finding it really hard to understand the my other party. so i need to forget about us for the meantime so the relationship will stay. to avoid arguments, but thinking about him everyday really kills me, even if im that busy, i tend to seek for much attention from him. i can`t help but expect from his attention yet as ej said giving not much of the person as his priority makes me think that he`s just fooling around... now where`s the TRUST there... reasons reasons reasons... ej makes me think that my guy doesnt really needs me nor love me the way i love him. it makes me feel bad huh...[/quote] Maybe you didn't understand my point. In order to stay sane in spite of arguments and all those problems, you need to maintain and balance your priorities. Do not put yourself in a position that you can lose your grounds and give up everything for your partner. "Balance" is one of the main factor you need to remember. This is same as life. Life has full of surprises, and its unfair if we may think, but it's the reality. What we can do is take all those experiences, and apply to your present and prepare for the future.[/spoiler] [spoiler][quote=bhebhiej]Thanks again you for your "real" answer, but damn, bro...could you make me feel any worse? No offense, and more than 1 person has told me this. And I know it sounds so cliche...but I have to disagree, and say that I don't think you could make that kind of assumption without knowing that other person (in this case, my girlfriend).[/quote] I know I don't know yet your girl friend but if I put myself in your position, I'd think the possibilities what are her reason why she acted like that. Although somehow you made her upset by being demanding a bit, but still, it was 4 days without communications with you. I guess women would probably be craving to talk to their boyfriends after 4 days of silence. However, in your case, was different. Do not just think all the positive thoughts. Anyway it's just my opinion and advice. It's up to you if you would like to apply it. No more advices from me about that.[/spoiler]

[b]@eehjhay[/b] [spoiler]Yeah, I got what you were saying, bro. I will say, though, that I gotta side with butterfly on this one...Some people could definitely take what you said as meaning your partner shouldn't be "that" important on your list and that you don't expect that person to still be there in the future. As for me, I'm hoping and praying that Michelle is in my future because I am so in love with her and she means the world to me, no matter what anybody else thinks. I gave her my heart and that means a lot coming from me. I don't give away my heart very easily, and I don't let many people get that close to me. But, like I said, I [b]did[/b] get what you were saying though. [/spoiler] [b]@butterfly[/b] [spoiler] Thank you for your concern, and yeah, I know you're just a PM away. [/spoiler]

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[spoiler] [quote]You have to be patient, capable of balancing or limiting your affections and feelings for your partner, and also don't give much priority to your partner. You need to be busy also for some times either to your work, your study, or your family. Always think that you're not just experiencing those, but also you are learning how to improve yourself to deal with those kinds of situations.[/quote] I agree with Ej on this. You have to have your own life, [sup][b]*just an example ... not pertaining this to any incident here or outside class x*[/b][/sup] [u]Ex. [/u] [i]if you keep on hounding your partner ,wanting every single detail of what she's doing and wanting to speak to her on a 24 hour basis ,don't you think she'll feel a bit trapped ? I mean she has her own life too and if you make her the center of yours and you end up neglecting you family,friends and activities in the end it's you who'll suffer.[/i] [/spoiler] @Butterfly [spoiler]You've got a new man already ! [sup]*chismaaaxx !!!!!*[/sup][/spoiler]

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Hahahah I [b]don't always[/b] agree with Ej. I mean in the past debate about abortion I was siding with Bhebheij. [i]weird thing here in Philippines, whenever I open up my mouth to speak my opinion people end up saying "too liberated" then they immediately ask you're not from around here are yah . hahahaa[/i] [b] Whats the next topic here ?[/b]

go go go... fight for ur love... no one last forever... nyahahaha... juxxx... am i kidding nyahahaha .... juxxx again

mind not my siggy... it will discourage u lol.. who knows if u will have a hapi ending unlike mine nyahaha.... regarding separation.... its ok since we r juz sharing point of view... we dont need to experience things for us to share... regarding separation... hmmmm... i dont believe in marriage ... thats why i dont know wer to side... all i know if marriage end up in dvorce wat more an ordinary girl boi relationship... again non last forever.. sooner or later u will be ditch lol.. bad chita...

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[b]@ fis.ms[/b] [quote=fis.ms][spoiler] [sup][b]*just an example ... not pertaining this to any incident here or outside class x*[/b][/sup] [u]Ex. [/u] [i]if you keep on hounding your partner ,wanting every single detail of what she's doing and wanting to speak to her on a 24 hour basis ,don't you think she'll feel a bit trapped ? I mean she has her own life too and if you make her the center of yours and you end up neglecting you family,friends and activities in the end it's you who'll suffer.[/i] Yeah, yeah, no doubt. But I'm not hounding her 24/7, I'm not asking for every detail, and I'm not trying to speak to her on a 24 hour basis. She was "missing" for 4 days. For 4 days I didn't know if she was dead or alive...so when she finally got a chance to be online, I was excited, and I wanted some "quality" time with her. After 4 days of not knowing if she was dead or alive, I was just kinda hoping that for even just 30 minutes that I could have her one on one instead of having to share her with her friend (just that one time) and her FS. So, ok, maybe I over reacted or asked for too much....but I know if she had been in MY shoes and it was me who had disappeared for that long....I would have given her some quality time because I would have known and understood that she had been missing me. Good feedback from all of you. Thank you, ladies and gentlemen.[/spoiler][/quote]

[quote=`mizeL]waaa i missed jesse's two topics... :3 about LDR's .. [spoiler] anyway, i will still post about it. i agree with ej about balancing your life. i've just ended up an LDR lately because this guy's getting possessive and whenever i miss a day of not chatting with him, he'll start to ask so many questions and assume and conclude that i'm busy spending with another guy when in fact i just don't like talking to him on a 24-hour basis(as what rose pointed) because hello, i have my own life too, i must do my own chores at home too and study and all. what the?! then i have this own instinct that when a guy suddenly thinks that i'm "kind-of-cheating-him" , i flip the side of the coin, maybe he's the one doing it, you know what i mean. Waaaaaaa Why does everyone conclude that I'm trying to smother her? It was just one chat session that I wanted some special attention. --I agree about your "own instinct". I think it's a good indication. In the past, whenever my girlfriend started to get "suspicious" about me, it always made me think that maybe she was up to something. Guilty conscience? [/spoiler][/quote]

[quote=butterfly_lady_08]about the OT yeah i have him already actually it was a long lost relationship but happen to brought back again and probably lost again by some issues. LDR really gets me sick. i am the type of lover that will give up everything for the person yet knowing that he was that arrrggg. wow... nwei i will stick to him ofcourse, just a little adjustments, ill be fair enough to him from now on, thanks to eehjhay for making me realize that. he just gave me hints on how to handle that boy of mine. at least...[/quote] wow i like this topic.. i think we are the same @butterfly .. im d type of person that will give up and do anything just to please my partner... BUT i realize on my last relationship that being martyr wont do u any good... i think LDR is for partners who are ready to commit and willing to give each other time and love...and be realistic with der decisions.. if u havnt got any of this factorz gud luck to yall... hehehe

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^ lol about that balls. uhm. at this moment i'm not again ready for commitment or to be in love because as far as i'm aware, i'm still starting to love myself yet before i love others. errrr.