[quote=eehjhay]Maybe you didn't understand my point. In order to stay sane in spite of arguments and all those problems, you need to maintain and balance your priorities. Do not put yourself in a position that you can lose your grounds and give up everything for your partner. "Balance" is one of the main factor you need to remember. This is same as life. Life has full of surprises, and its unfair if we may think, but it's the reality. What we can do is take all those experiences, and apply to your present and prepare for the future.[/quote] maybe we really didnt understand our points here, for me you sounded like you dont have to prioritize your partner even if she was doing her part for you. you dont have to be insane by the situation. you just need to be more understanding about it. in LDR s the most important factor was trust and understanding right, love will only follow and most when you two are finally together, so by what you have just said and if only a sensitive woman or girl or your partner would realize those you just said will think that the relationship was not "that" serious or there is no security at all when you just mentioned that "Do not put yourself in a position that you can lose your grounds and give up everything for your partner." "What we can do is take all those experiences, and apply to your present and prepare for the future." and to that you are assuming that she will be not your future... well maybe it will just lead to misunderstandings definitely guys and girls had different thinkings, just always remember that womans, gurls are more SENSITIVE in all aspects so you guys must avoid giving the person heartaches coz they will always remember that. and to the facts that guys tends to be like INSENSITIVE in some parts,the fact that they never knew when and how they hurt their partners in some ways. they happen to be the last person to know that. ______ @ jesse you definitely in love with the girl, i understands you, just the above advised you, keep yourself busy instead of thinking about her, she will realize it sooner or later... if you need my help... just tell me.. ill be very glad to help someone in need.　specially in that situation. im just a pm away