to: [b]h312y_sh[/b] well i want to share some... [spoiler]question: why do you think she wants to come back to you? always remember that we are pertaining about your MARRIGE... if im not mistaken. nwei as gloo asked you earlier... your woman have another man reason why she left you huh? is it that simple... maybe there's something wrong with you or with her relationship with you you should knew it before just saying that she left you because she have an affair with other man... first you must not in anyway, put all the blame to her for what she just did to you. you should also ask yourself. what did you do that makes her do such i can say sins (if you two are married). dont just get corrupted by your hatred and hurt of what happened to you and her. you two must talk. maybe you have faults too. im kinda disappointed to the reason you gave. hahaha being so defensive here... nwei here are some points, the true meaning of a relationship mostly in woman doesn't [b]ALWAYS[/b] depends on physical contacts and or SEX!... emotional factors is the MOST important element for us woman. it should [b]ALWAYS[/b] be considered. as stated, forgiveness is the key that unlocks the the gates to happiness... you couple should have a [b]very OPEN[/b] communication i suggest... some woman tend to leave their husbands because of another man, yeah it really happens, but dont you think they regret what they did. and if not, of course just like other sins, conscience will always prevail. i remember a proffesor in my college stated, [b]"LOVE in a relationship will expire after 2 years"[/b] and yeah tested. yet [b]"the true meaning of a relationship will only starts after they reached their 5th year being together"[/b], as he implies. and my reaction... what??? so as a person in a relationship, let's compare a couple's relationship into an infant. one must nurture that relationship with the other person before it reaches the expiration, "felling [b]OUT OF LOVE[/b] with his/her partner" and/or the person will... always find someone/another person that will fill that person's expections that this person fail to find in his/her partner. always remember that there is [b]NO PERFECT[/b] relationship in this world. unless you can love a person [b]UNCONDITIONALLY[/b]. and that is [b]GOD[/b], sad to say that we are only humans? humans often made mistakes but can learn from it. and as for the record, the decisions will always ends into what is [b]RIGHTEOUS[/b] and what is [b]FAIR[/b]. and best part to that is you [b]LEARN[/b]. and must not repeat the same mistakes. don't forget to learn the art of FORGIVENESS... >>> [spoiler]sorry, im a very emotional person coz i can relate to your situation i somewhat (not in all aspects)did what your wife have done. maybe you can just hold on to the vow that you two have made during the matrimonial and you will somewhat find peace. don't be too judgemental with your wife, yes she made a mistake but everybody deserves a second chance, i know your wife is so sorry about what happen to you two and maybe she can change for the better if not well you two must put things in a much LEGAL ways. put everything in writing. maybe that's the way it should be[/spoiler][/spoiler]

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