[spoiler]grrrr!!!! you know what ej.... to tell you the truth, everytime we talk about this issue or talking about this topic, i always gets hurt by what you are trying to imply here... actually i can't help but just pity myself about this issue. on how you replied on this. (i was so disappointed about your first reply to that problem starter) in my case, yes im guilty. in all ways, no matter how hard i tried to defend my reasons towards this sins that i did, it always ends to "i am a sinner, i am immoral, i am a bad person, cheater, bitch" i know that. because i cheated on my marriage. what i did a year ago to my husband was unforgiveable and unforgettable. i definitely know that. i just wanted to make this things clear. im not a cheater in nature. (just in case someone is thinking that i am presently in another relationship again now.. im not) even in my past relationships before my husband i never cheated anyone until i found and learn to be attached to that person. i hope you know that. you were there from the very beginning when i did cheat on my husband. but come to think of it, should i regret those things that i did? i supposed not. because everything i did gives me more reasons to go on. partial failures are part of life. we don't have to be bitter forever for the sins we made in the past right? the most important factor is I LEARN from my mistakes. that person who gets involved in my emotional life serves as a HELP to me, and to my husband, to realize and understands things in life that we didn't imagine before that situation came. yes, after what i did i really suffer, i suffered a lot, i feel like i'm being punished, less respect, less trust, less passion. i almost loss everything. do i deserve that? in some reasons YES i believe i should be treated that way. i was expecting more actually. but like other people Of course i have the rights to move on, stand where i fall. im still alive and i need to live right for the better. my point here to that man who is cheated by his wife is... don't just say that she left you because of another man. always look into the more deeper reasons of her acts. lets say just like what i did, it just happen that the third party was present during that time that the relationship is in struggle. learn to analyze things, don't just look towards the sins she made, its a cause and effect thing. ask her reasons first. to end this... infidelity in marriage is legally, morally, religiously wrong. but how come there are so many cases of separation even in the Philippines where there is less basis of legalities? i mean, legal separation costs 200k phil peso, and most couples just leave their marriage behind and move on to another relationship disregarding the matrimonial certificate? nweiz eehjhay. you dont have to mention that im using two accounts here and you dont need to mention my real name. . you win... i was terribly annoyed by this issue. is that your very special birthday gift for me huh? wow! im touched. you know me. i will defend my side over and over if i needed about what i did in the past. you forced me i guess to tell this things in here. well all this things that i posted here are the truth and i don't need to be ashamed of it. LMAO im still just human, i don't need to perfect. mistakes are part of life and we need to learn from it. can we move on to another issue i mean topic? i bet that problem starter is suffering from bitterness about his situation now... well nwei let's put some spices... lets talk about SEX now can we? .......end tone[/spoiler]

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