[quote=eehjhay]In your experience, who usually work a lot while having sex? Is it you or your partner? If you don't have any experience yet, is it alright to you if your partner will not going to participate enough while having sex? What will you do it make it fair?[/quote] Most of the time, both of us work "harmoniously" together. In my view, having a successful sexual relation with your partner needs each others full concentration, and "participation", thus, if one of you doesn't fell like to have sex, just please be patient enough, wait for the right moment, it will always come... Remember, sex is much enjoyable if both partners are satisfied....