[quote=KhErMiNaToR]January 1st 2005 LOL i cannot forget that day [/quote] kyahaha see he's one of the people im saying that first are unforgetable. nweiz u did have a good 2005 new year start ey?

[quote=DeverKerbill]looking from the date.... is it a "new year gift" from ur gf? like she says.."ah...it's a new year.this year i wanna be urs.Please *** me " like that?[/quote] Please be careful on your comments. Your comment might be offensive. -- Anyway how about for our topic would be... [spoiler]Cheaters. After your partner cheated on you, he/she begged for forgiveness and promised that he won't do it again. That he realized your value in his/her life. What would be your decision/feeling/thought? Did you already experienced being cheated? Would you give him another chance or not? Or what?[/spoiler]

weee...now i can relate hmm...i was cheated ones and it was like *argh* adjectives are not enough to describe it at first i was really furious about it but i kept it inside....i just don't want others to pity me my frnds noticed that something is wrong 'bout me but then im not ready to confess yet but errr..i'm just human w/ feeling and i cant help but to burst my feelings i talk to him and he explained..but dang he still lied...but then again i accept his reasons and apology after a week he wants me back but i refused im sick and tired of all his lies let bygones be bygones..hehehe

^so,how about ur relationship with the guy that crush u? no..juz kiddin... hmm.....things like that sometimes happen...do u believe he was drunk that time... if it's me,i dont believe it...

lol I've been cheated once and i agree with kherminator but it depends on you. You have to transcend your ego and make the decision to restore the trust. Then be consciously self-observant, working on your self-esteem and the value that you bring to the table. I realize that it isn�t my gf I need to trust, I need to trust God who will only provide me with circumstances that are in my best interest. I really believe that. I think that even the worst of circumstances happen because there is something that you gain from them or learn from them. We can become better and stronger people from them. Personally, I have to trust that anything that happens to me is the right thing for me to experience. Secondly, I have to trust myself to be able to handle whatever it is that happens. Btw is this what they call KARMA?

^ ^ haha nice i like the "make love out of nothing".. it's as if like summarizing what happened to you and ur partner. I think it's better if the both of u move on from the past and start moving forward. [quote=DeverKerbill]^so,how about ur relationship with the guy that crush u? no..juz kiddin...[/quote] ^ ^ no.. he's just my "friend" and I don't have same feelings for him. Anyway as I've mentioned on my last post, cheating is like getting ur trust ruined. And it's really hard to get it back again especially when it's already gone worse.

No. Trust can be ruined in some point in your life, but it can be somehow rebuild and establish a different kind of trust. If you really want it, you have to give your best effort on trusting again someone. In my experience, I have a ex-gf who somewhat cheated on me. We'll its not that they meet or something but it's like it will go to that point that they will meet. [spoiler]I already told my ex-gf to stop thinking about her ex-bf. Her ex-bf already moved on and living in with her new gf. But eventually my ex-gf, and her ex-bf had a communication. She lied to me that they already stop talking and never will have communications with each other. One day, I went to my ex-gf house because we were going somewhere. While she was preparing on our travel, I called her girl best friend. Then eventually her best friend confessed to me that my ex-gf and my ex-gf's ex-bf were talking to each other and they might meet again. I was furious that time knowing my ex-gf lied to me. [b]But I decided to stay calm and hold my emotion inside[/b]. I talked to my ex-gf and confronted her about that lies. I asked her if she loves me and if she still have feelings for her ex-bf. And she said yes she loves me but she can't love me the way he loved her ex-bf. And also she said yes, she still had feelings for her ex-bf. I become numb that time. I didn't know what would be my reaction. But I remain calm. While she was sitting on the bed, I got on to my knee and ask her calmly, "Do you want our relationship to work out? If yes, let me help you on that issue. I'll do anything for you and to let you forget your ex-bf" And so she said yes, eventually we became open to each other. Our relationship became more stronger after that discussion.[/spoiler] Serious talking and understanding your partner are the best solution of these kinds of events. Before you made a drastic action, you might need to rethink and became mature enough to accept that all people will not fit into your expectation.

A broken glass can still be rebuild. Make it as a liquid thru a furnace with very high temperature. Then get a rod and make a new glass using water while it is still hot. lol. hahaha.. Like I said, if you both want to get the relationship work, you two must do anything for it. No matter how cruel the incident was, it can still be worth it. Learn from mistakes.

I was a pre-engineer student before. I learned those glass making etc in highschool. It is a very hard process. Like everything that you've work hard for, it will be worth it. So same as the relationships. As for that glass, it will become same as the first one if the maker is good and/or he/she is the one who made it at first. Same as the relationship, if your relationship have something wrong, it can be corrected by the same people involved, it is you and your partner. No one else. No one must intervene and meddle. They can give advised but at the end of the day, you and your partner will decide.

I didn't say that you were wrong. Nothing in my posts saying you were wrong. Let me elaborate, trust can be rebuild. But not all relationships will have a happy ending. Some may fail, some may continue to bloom. It depends on the people involved in the relationship. BOTH must be willing to rebuild the broken trust.