huh? relationship with her? gosh. like i said, relationship matters must be separated with moderating in ftalk. so i have no grudge on her except that she threaten other members by saying that she will reveal some dirty little secrets. it's really inappropriate, unethical and without etiquette. even if she will not reveal those secrets, it's really shameful for a moderator to even let the other members to see that we are capable of revealing confidentialities. i can barely think that she was moderating here since she left for few weeks, then when she came back, she will immediately get involve in an argument. she didn't talked to the other side of the argument for confirmation to know the whole story of this issue.